Marriage Prosperity..

[bobinfaith]

Dear brothers and sisters;

Whether you are a Newly Wed or celebrating your Golden Anniversary, do you see your spouse differently from the days you were dating?

I do.  Hazel and I celebrated our anniversary last month and BOOM!   It really hit me.  I don't want to share scriptures yet but would like to know your ponderings.

I know that in my heart my wife is more beautiful today because of the inner cup within her. 

Don't be shy, instead share your testimony and give honor to your spouse.

Your brother in Christ Jesus.     b 

[YourPastorT]

Excellent thread Brother Bob!

Mrs. Sybil and I just celebrated our anniversary (17 July).  I can tell you that I view her much differently then when we dated and over the first years of our marriage. I was saved after we married, and God immediately changed the way I view the wife of my youth.  Proverbs 5 has much to say and is very commonly used when talking about marriage:

Pro 5:1  My son, attend unto my wisdom, and bow thine ear to my understanding:
Pro 5:2  That thou mayest regard discretion, and that thy lips may keep knowledge.
Pro 5:3  For the lips of a strange woman drop as an honeycomb, and her mouth is smoother than oil:
Pro 5:4  But her end is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a twoedged sword.
Pro 5:5  Her feet go down to death; her steps take hold on hell.
Pro 5:6  Lest thou shouldest ponder the path of life, her ways are moveable, that thou canst not know them.
Pro 5:7  Hear me now therefore, O ye children, and depart not from the words of my mouth.
Pro 5:8  Remove thy way far from her, and come not nigh the door of her house:
Pro 5:9  Lest thou give thine honour unto others, and thy years unto the cruel:
Pro 5:10  Lest strangers be filled with thy wealth; and thy labours be in the house of a stranger;
Pro 5:11  And thou mourn at the last, when thy flesh and thy body are consumed,
Pro 5:12  And say, How have I hated instruction, and my heart despised reproof;
Pro 5:13  And have not obeyed the voice of my teachers, nor inclined mine ear to them that instructed me!
Pro 5:14  I was almost in all evil in the midst of the congregation and assembly.
Pro 5:15  Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.
Pro 5:16  Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
Pro 5:17  Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee.
Pro 5:18  Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth.
Pro 5:19  Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
Pro 5:20  And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
Pro 5:21  For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings.
Pro 5:22  His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins.
Pro 5:23  He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray.

When we married, I was 18 and my wife was 19 (1981).  I was not a Christian and she was. She was clearly out of my league and the most beautiful girl I had even seen. So what has changed over these years? She is still out of my league, I am blessed by the best wife, she is loving, patient and kind. And she is still the most beautiful girl I have ever seen. On the surface it doesn't sound like much has changed, that is because the change is not just on the outside. When I accepted the Lord Jesus as Saviour, He gave me a new heart, He removed my dead heart of stone and gave me a new heart of flesh, a real heart. In that Heart was a love for Christ and a love for my wife. The depths of love that the Lord has used my wife to reveal to me cannot be expressed in words. As God has taught me to see Her with His eyes the beauty that I have seen is without measure, the grace that has filled our home is beyond compare and the love that I am shown each day is without equal. My wife and I are now in our mid 40's and she still has a physical beauty that many woman would love to have, and I am thankful for that, however, the beauty of my wife is so much deeper than the physical, she is beautiful in Spirit and to know her is an honor for which I have never been worthy, yet my Lord has chosen me and blessed me with real beauty, and that beauty has a name...Sybil.

[HistoryMaker]

Yes I do Bob..........already! Last Monday (July 14th) was the mile marker for one month of being married to Mr. Man. I still can't believe that I'm married, or old enough to be called Mrs.!!!!!!!

Mr. Man's first name means "God is gracious" and his middle means "Strong willed warrior". He's been through a lot in his life, and he lives up to both names. I thank God each day for him and I'm thankful that God brought us both together to share the journey of life.

I'm just a baby in this field, so I don't have much to say!!!!

HM-------> Lishy

[bobinfaith]

Thank you, PastorT, Proverbs 5 and God's timing will help us during these days.  I desire to share that scripture with her. 

Lishy, I'm praying for God's strength be lifted up to you and Bill during your residing transition.  Is there an update re living in Michigan or Alabama?   Also, is there really a vegetable named Bob the Tomato?  It reminds of the time I was playing guitar on stage and someone teased me with a well....spell the rest.  lol!

Mrs. Hazel is still grieving and time to time needs to be with her siblings in Oakland (30 minutes) from our home is understandable.  When I pickup her up coming back we went into the bedroom and had our devotion before anything else.  She opened up to me and as the tears rolled down for missing her mom Lydia, the Lord comforted us because I have been able to excercise letting go of my own needs. 

I couldn't say this years ago.  At some point I would have barked,  HEY, what about me?  When do we get to have our time alone?  I know your mom died but your life with me must go on!

I'm know me.  God knows me better.  But by His LOVE for the both of us at this time I am able to shun all "about me" without a flinch.  Praise Him!    Like I said, I couldn't say this years ago. 

Better yet, I am thankful Mrs. Hazel came back to me safely on her own accord, not by my force.   God has shown me that these kinds of things happens in time with maturity.  Then I can see the LOVE growth in our marriage that I could not see years earlier.  The test of time, so to speak.

I can't say that I planned on being married to a woman this long in my life.  I can say that today I am thankful to Him for my wife Hazel.  She comes a strong 2nd after our Father God.   It doesn't matter what her priorities are.  That's between her and the Lord.  But what matters is that she heard this in our devotion. 

I'm still kind of dull.  I guess despite what she is grieving she still needs me during this time.  Maybe its a humbling spirit, I don't know.

Your brother in Christ Jesus.     b




   


 

 

[HistoryMaker]

I saw Mr. Man in a different light today. I was taking care of the dishes, putting the dirty ones in the dishwasher, and when I went to pick up one of the containers, it was heavy like it still had food in it. I opened it up........... Mr. Man left the spoon it in. I just started to chuckle, and shook my head like 'oh goodness'.  He does a lot of that, just makes me shake my head and laugh.

Silly silly man I married, but I love him for it all.